How the Pill Changes Everything: Your Brain on Birth Control - The Diary of a CEO with Dr Sarah Hill

From sabotaging sex to axing attraction, new research is showing that the birth control pill can have impacts you never imagined

Dr Sarah Hill is a renowned evolutionary social psychologist who focuses on women and health. She is also the author of How the Pill Changes Everything: Your Brain on Birth Control.

00:00:00 Intro
00:02:04 What Is the Mission You Are On?
00:02:58 Is This Conversation Only for Women?
00:03:47 Why Does Sarah Hill Do This Work?
00:05:13 Is There a Problem in Dating When Women Have More Resources?
00:09:00 Is Sex Trending Down?
00:10:23 Why Don’t Women Date Broke Men?
00:12:09 Is This Patriarchy?
00:14:35 Why Do Men Take More Risks?
00:16:22 Are Men Better at Business Than Women?
00:22:46 Why Don’t We Live Like Our Biology Intended?
00:25:22 Signs of a High-Status Male
00:27:05 How Women’s Preferences Change During Their Cycle
00:33:17 High Testosterone and Relationship Status
00:34:12 Do Men’s Testosterone Levels Plummet After Having a Baby?
00:35:58 Do Nice Guys Get Laid?
00:37:08 What Makes Us Attracted to Someone?
00:41:07 Are Men Less Attracted to Successful Women?
00:42:40 Jealousy Among the Sexes
00:47:03 Why Do Women Have Gay Best Friends?
00:48:58 Why Did Sarah Write Her Book on Birth Control?
00:53:35 What Does Sarah Wish She Was Told About the Pill?
00:55:34 How the Pill Changes Your Sexual Desires
01:02:05 If My Partner Is on the Pill, Will She Like Me If She Comes Off?
01:05:47 Would a Man’s Attraction Change If a Woman Is Off the Pill?
01:08:04 Will My Testosterone Be Lower If My Partner Is on Birth Control?
01:11:00 Is There a Population Crash Coming?
01:11:51 Advertisements
01:13:53 What Is a Good Man?
01:17:05 Sex Appetite Across Genders and Why
01:20:24 Advice for Young Men Struggling to Get a Woman
01:23:15 Advice for Daughters on Attracting a Man
01:25:41 Are Men Attracted to Confident Women?
01:28:36 What Are Daddy Issues?
01:30:16 What Role Does a Father Play in a Woman’s Sexual Partner?
01:30:51 What Impact Does the Birth Control Pill Have on Stress?
01:33:35 Depression and Suicide Linked to the Pill
01:35:29 How Did Sarah Feel About Her Daughter’s Decision on Birth Control?
01:40:34 What If Men Had to Take the Pill?
01:44:24 What’s the Most Popular Email Sarah Gets?
01:47:51 Guest’s Last Question

An ode to people who don’t believe in themselves - Modern Wisdom

An ode to people who don’t believe in themselves - Modern Wisdom.

What comes first, belief or action?

Do you need to believe you can do a thing before you do it?

“Fake it until you make it” is one option, but incredibly hard if you’re introspective or have low self-belief and high standards.

So what about make it until you fake it?

Here are some lessons I’ve learned:

• You can believe you’re not worthy of a thing and still attain it.
• You can be adamant that your efforts are going to go badly and still succeed.
• You can grip and grasp and fear and it ruin the enjoyment and be totally unwarranted, and things still go well.
• You can have no self-belief and show up anyway.
• And still win.
• You can want more for yourself without knowing exactly what that looks like.
• You can doubt the process, question your talent, be uncertain that you’re making progress, disparage your accomplishments, permanently feel like you’re not working hard enough no matter how hard you work, never give yourself a break, fail to fully feel gratitude, be terrified of never reaching your goals, and still end up in a place your 20 year old self could not imagine you’d ever get to.

“Self-belief is overrated, generate evidence.” - Ryan Holiday

So, some things to keep in mind…

Don’t grip life so tightly.

Being too serious creates a kind of brittle fragility which a playful attitude insulates you against.

Your goal is dynamic persistence over the long term.

Taking things seriously gives you a huge advantage in bursts, but chronic seriousness makes you rigid and at risk of blow-up.

What would this be like if it was 10% more enjoyable?

“Make a sense of humour your default emotion.” - Matthew McConaughey

Don’t be so worried about winning that you forget what winning is supposed to feel like.

Is your presiding feeling when things go well one of happiness and satisfaction or one of relief?

Is it joy or simply the abatement of fear?

After a while of winning, you realise that HOW you win is more important than IF you win.

How you feel during the event is more important than the outcome of the event.

How the people who read your work are impacted is more important than how many are impacted.

Do not be so terrified of failing that even the act of winning is made miserable.

It’s all vibes man.

Ultimately you are doing things not to say you have done them, but for the experience of having done them.

When you look back, it’s the experience itself, not just the outcome that matters.

Outcomes are more important than inputs, but vibes are more important still.

One of the big determining factors in how you feel will be the outcome, but it’s not everything.

Oddly enough, optimising for how you feel detaches you from caring about outcomes, but is the very thing that drives outcomes the most.

And if it doesn’t, what do you care, you’re enjoying it.

Emotional pain is a hell of a teacher.

But it won’t kill you.

Would life be easier if you didn’t feel everything so very deeply?

Perhaps.

But the only reason you’re getting the outcomes that you want is because of your depth of thought.

As bad as it feels, this is the breadth of human existence.

You are ALIVE.

Your inner landscape is a fascinating world to explore.

Act with curiosity.

What you are doing right now is a hypothesis to be tested, not an ideology to be proved.

Is your goal to survive, or thrive, or flourish?

You have dealt with everything that life has thrown at you so far.

Do you think that’s due to the way you grasped and controlled?

The way you feared and ruminated?

Or could it be because you are capable, competent, gifted, and the world is fundamentally fair.

Over a long enough time horizon, most people get what they deserve.

You are doing this for you.

After a certain level of material comfort, the only person you need to do this for is you.

Your conscience knows when you’re being honest and not.

Optimise to make him happy.

Be the person your mum thinks you are.

Be the person your younger self wanted as a role model.

Brave, courageous, earnest, honest, virtuous, flaming.

“And that’s how we measure out our real respect for people – by the degree of feeling they can register, the voltage of life they can carry and tolerate - and enjoy. End of sermon. As Buddha says: live like a mighty river. And as the old Greeks said: live as though all your ancestors were living again through you.” - Ted Hughes via Visakan Veerasamy

Some differences between male and female university professors in America - Cory Clark with Modern Wisdom

Some differences between male and female university professors in America - Cory Clark with Modern Wisdom.

“71% of men reported that protecting free speech is more important than promoting an inclusive society; 59% of women said promoting an inclusive society is more important than protecting free speech.

56% of men said that colleges should not protect students from offensive ideas; 64% of women said that they should.

51% of men said colleges should not disinvite speakers if students threaten violent protest; 67% of women said they should.

58% of men opposed a confidential reporting system at colleges which students could use to report offensive comments; 54% of women supported it.

63% of men thought controversial news stories in student papers should not need administrators’ approval before publication; 51% of women thought they should.

65% of men believed that supporting the right to make an argument is not the same as endorsing it; 51% of women disagreed.

66–76% of men support intellectually foundational texts above diversity quotas on reading lists; 44–66% of women support diversity quotas above foundational texts.

Female academics report a greater willingness than their male counterparts to support dismissal campaigns against a colleague who has conducted research that reached a controversial conclusion.

58% of men said it is never acceptable to shout down speakers or to try to prevent them from delivering their remarks; 58% of women said it was sometimes or always acceptable.

Put simply; men are relatively more interested in advancing what is empirically correct, and women are relatively more interested in advancing what is morally desirable.” — Cory Clark.

Functional Dentist: New Research Linking Dental Hygiene To Many Other Diseases - The Diary of a CEO with Dr Victoria Sampson

Dr Victoria Sampson is an award-winning functional dentist, researcher, and founder of the multidisciplinary oral health centre, The Health Society Labs. She is also the first dentist in the world to link gum disease with worse COVID complications.

00:00:00 Intro
00:02:02 The Oral Microbiome
00:03:22 What Impacts Our Oral Microbiome?
00:04:01 2 Million Bacteria in Your Mouth
00:05:14 How Many People Have Oral Diseases?
00:06:47 Body Diseases Linked to Oral Microbiome
00:08:33 Steven Adjusting Chair?
00:10:46 Research Linking COVID-19 and Oral Hygiene
00:13:06 Can Your Oral Microbiome Kill You?
00:13:55 How Food Shapes Your Mouth
00:17:03 What’s a Wisdom Tooth?
00:18:22 Do Wisdom Teeth Need Removal?
00:19:07 Why Do We Need Dentists If Ancestors Had Good Teeth?
00:20:33 Is Everyone’s Microbiome Massively Different?
00:22:22 How Oral Health Improves Overall Health
00:24:22 Can Swallowing Saliva Make You Sick?
00:26:16 Inflammation and the Oral Microbiome Link
00:28:18 Rheumatoid Arthritis Strongly Linked to Oral Health
00:30:43 Heart Disease and the Oral Microbiome
00:33:30 How Oral Bacteria Filters Through Your Body
00:33:48 Erectile Dysfunction Linked to Oral Hygiene
00:35:56 Emerging Research: Breast Cancer and Oral Microbiome
00:39:53 Green Tea Benefits for Oral Health
00:41:12 Impact of Coffee on Oral Health
00:42:14 Effects of Hot Drinks & Sugar on Teeth
00:44:02 Link Between Brain Health & Alzheimer’s
00:50:39 Can Mental Health Be Seen in the Mouth?
00:51:40 Spotting Eating Disorders Through Oral Health
00:52:18 How Stress Affects Your Oral Health
00:53:54 Mouth vs. Nose Breathing: Health Impacts
00:57:36 Higher ADHD Risk in Mouth-Breathing Children
00:58:31 Kissing and Bacteria Transmission
00:59:32 Oral Sex and the Oral Microbiome
01:01:55 Switching to Steven - Transition
01:02:35 Oral Health and Fertility
01:07:01 Ad Break
01:08:00 Study Results on Oral Health
01:16:59 Best Time to Brush Your Teeth
01:18:05 Good vs. Bad Oral Products
01:26:46 Should You Spit or Rinse After Brushing?
01:31:16 Whitening Products: Do They Work?
01:34:20 Importance of Drinking Through Straws
01:35:13 Smoking and Vaping Effects on Oral Health
01:37:58 Last Guest Question