28 September 2022

Happiness, Confidence, Confrontation and Rumination - Knowledge For Men

How to be happy and create the life you want

How to increase confidence and become a high value man

How to deal with confrontation, avoid anxiety, and be a stronger man:

How to stop ruminating, quit obsessing over mistakes and move on with your life:

How to be Happy And Create The Life You Want

Learning Points:

  • Happiness is an Inside Job: External achievements, possessions, or validation from others are fleeting sources of happiness. True, sustainable happiness comes from internal work, mindset, and alignment with your values.
  • Responsibility is Power: Blaming external circumstances or other people for your unhappiness disempowers you. Taking 100% responsibility for your life, your reactions, and your results is the first step toward creating change.
  • Lack of Vision is a Primary Cause of Unhappiness: Many people feel lost or unfulfilled because they have no clear vision for what they want their life to look like. Without a target, you cannot move towards it purposefully.
  • Happiness is a Byproduct, Not a Goal: Happiness is not something to be pursued directly. It is the natural outcome of living a life of purpose, overcoming challenges, having strong relationships, and being in good health.

22 September 2022

Gender Through the Eyes of a Primatologist - Dr Jordan Peterson with Frans de Waal

An interesting podcast discussing how gender/sex differences affect humans with reference to what has been learned from primates and other animal species.

1. Dr. Frans de Waal's Work and Influence

  • Dr. de Waal is a highly accomplished scientist, having published hundreds of articles in prestigious journals like Science and Nature, a feat described as rare and placing him "in the league of his own".
  • His popular books, translated into over 20 languages, have made him one of the world's most visible primatologists.
  • His work has been profoundly influential, particularly on the biological basis of morality, the development of moral sentiments in chimpanzees, and the sophisticated nature of hierarchical behaviour in primates. He also focuses on play and gender.
  • De Waal was trained as an ethologist, studying naturalistic animal behaviour, initially focusing on observation and later incorporating behavioural experiments to study reconciliation, empathy, and cooperation.

2. Hierarchies and Social Organisation

  • De Waal challenges the simplistic view that dominance hierarchies are based purely on coercion and power. He argues that a dominant individual needs followers, and dominance is a "two-way street".
  • Stable alpha males in chimpanzee society are often not bullies, but rather peacekeepers who break up fights, defend the underdog (e.g., juveniles against adults, females against males), reassure distressed individuals, and can be extremely popular.

18 September 2022

Is it Time for a Tactical Break from Alcohol? - Dr Rangan Chatterjee

The "Middle Lane Drinker"

Many of us fall into the category of a "middle lane drinker." This term, coined by podcast guest Andy Ramage, describes individuals who are not alcoholics but regularly consume alcohol to unwind, at social events, or more heavily on weekends. This regular consumption can become a habit that we don't question, even if it's not serving us well.

The Power of a Tactical Break

The core message of the podcast is to consider a "tactical break" from alcohol. This isn't necessarily about quitting forever, but about taking a deliberate pause—whether it's for 28, 90, or 365 days—to experience the benefits. Andy Ramage, who initially planned a 30-day break and is now six years alcohol-free, emphasizes that this break can lead to profound changes in your life.

16 September 2022

It's never to early to start

Many modern lifestyle diseases such as heart disease, diabetes or dementia, do not suddenly occur in old age. They are formed in your 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s. It is only that the symptoms become significant in old age.

To help prevent them, you need to focus on good sleep, healthy eating (eating less processed food, eating more diverse food, drinking less alcohol...), regular exercise and participating in good social relationships throughout your adult life. What you do in your earlier life sows the seeds for your later life, so don't wait for tomorrow to make changes.

I am who I think you think I am - Charles Cooley

"I am not who I think I am. I am not who you think I am. I am who I think you think I am." - Charles Cooley

In his "Looking-Glass Self." theory, Cooley suggests that our sense of self is not an isolated, internal creation but is instead a social construct, reflected back at us through the perceptions of others.

  1. Imagination of our appearance to the other person: We project an image of ourselves out into the world. How do I seem to my boss, my partner, my friend?
  2. Imagination of their judgment of that appearance: We then guess what they think about what they see. "My boss probably thinks my presentation was disorganized." "My friend must think I'm so funny."
  3. Our resulting self-feeling: We experience an emotional reaction—like pride, shame, confidence, or anxiety—based on our perception of their judgment. This feeling is then integrated into our sense of self.

Crucially, we are not reacting to what people actually think, but to what we imagine they think. This interpretive gap is where we have the power to act.

Your self-esteem is built on a perception, not a fact

15 September 2022

The Liver King - The Diary of a CEO

Quite enjoyed listening to this podcast with The Liver King. Don't agree with everything said but lots of good points raised:

Finding Balance In A Dopamine Overloaded World - Dr Rangan Chatterjee with Dr Anna Lembke

Learning Points

  1. Dopamine's Core Function and Misconceptions

    • Dopamine is a brain chemical essential for informing us about environmental and body state changes.
    • It signals things we should approach, work for, or pay attention to.
    • It is fundamental to addiction, released by highly pleasurable and reinforcing activities.
    • Misconception: Dopamine is not only released in response to pleasure; it can also be released by aversive stimuli that require attention. It is crucial for motivation, reward, and movement, and its depletion is linked to Parkinsonism.

13 September 2022

How Humans Select And Keep Romantic Partners In The Short And Long Term - Dr Andrew Huberman with Dr David Buss

and also The Hidden Psychology of Sexual Conflict - Chris Williamson with David Buss:

Learning Points

  1. Evolutionary Psychology Framework
    • Dr. David Buss is a foundational figure in evolutionary psychology, which examines human psychology through the lens of evolutionary theory, focusing on the function of psychological mechanisms. It's essentially "psychology look[ed at] through the lens of evolutionary theory".
    • Sexual selection is a core concept, dealing with the evolution of characteristics due to their mating advantage, distinct from survival advantage. It involves two processes: intrasexual competition (same-sex rivalry for mates, often for status or resources) and preferential mate choice (one sex developing a consensus on desired qualities in the other).
    • Humans exhibit mutual mate choice, meaning both men and women have preferences and compete for desirable partners.
    • Long-term pair bonding is remarkably rare in the mammalian world (3-5% of species), making human long-term mating a unique evolutionary development involving attachment and significant male investment in offspring.

05 September 2022

The Benefits of Sauna - Dr Rhonda Patrick

Learning Points

  1. Broad Spectrum of Benefits
    • Sauna use is associated with a lower risk of death from cardiovascular disease, sudden cardiac death, coronary heart disease, stroke, dementia, and Alzheimer's disease.
    • There is also a 40% lower risk of dying from all causes of death for frequent users.
    • Sauna use contributes to improving "health span," which means extending the youthful part of life and improving the quality of life by preventing or delaying diseases like Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, cancer, cardiovascular disease, and type 2 diabetes.
  2. Dose-Dependent Effects
    • The health benefits of sauna bathing are dose-dependent, meaning more frequent use leads to more robust effects.
    • For example, using the sauna 4 to 7 times a week significantly reduces the risk of sudden cardiac death (63% lower) compared to once a week (22% lower for 2-3 times/week).
    • Similarly, 4-7 times a week is associated with a 60-66% reduction in dementia and Alzheimer's risk compared to once a week.

Huberman Lab podcasts related to sleep - Dr Andrew Huberman

Sleep is absolutely critical to our health, far more than many realise. Here are a great set of podcasts to help understand sleep in more detail and figure out how to improve sleep:

Dr Matthew Walker on "The Science and Practise of Perfecting Your Sleep"

Dr Andrew Huberman on "Sleep Toolkit: Tools For Optimizing Sleep & Sleep-Wake Timing"

Learning Points

  1. Definition and Importance of Sleep
    • Sleep is likely the single most effective thing you can do to reset your brain and body health.
    • It's an incredibly complex physiological process, fundamentally divided into two main types: non-rapid eye movement (non-REM) sleep and rapid eye movement (REM) sleep.

04 September 2022

How to Build a Happy Life - How To Identify What You Enjoy Podcast

How To: Identify What You Enjoy: Learning Points

  1. Defining Happiness Beyond a Feeling:
    • Happiness is not merely a feeling but is described as a "banquet" with three essential "macronutrients": enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose.
    • Truly happy people have these three elements in abundance and balance.
    • Happiness is a byproduct of living a meaningful life, not a goal in itself, which can lead to disaster if pursued directly.
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What Alcohol Does To Your Body, Brain & Health Podcast - Dr Andrew Huberman

Sometimes ignorance is better than the devil you know. I wish I hadn't listened to Dr Andrew Huberman's talk on the impact of alcohol, even for average alcohol consumption. Unfortunately I can't undo it now, for anyone else interested...


Learning Points

  1. Alcohol's Toxic Nature and Widespread Effects:

    • Alcohol (ethyl alcohol/ethanol) is a known toxin that is both water- and fat-soluble, allowing it to easily pass into all cells and tissues of the body, including the brain.
    • It is metabolised in the liver into acetaldehyde, a more potent poison that indiscriminately damages and kills cells.
    • The calories from alcohol are "empty" as the metabolic process is costly and provides no nutritive value (vitamins, amino acids, fatty acids).
    • Being drunk is essentially a poison-induced disruption of neural circuits.