The Art Of Effortless Confidence & Social Persuasion - Modern Wisdom with Vanessa Van Edwards

Vanessa Van Edwards is a behavioral researcher, speaker, and author.

How do you make a great first impression? How can I become more charismatic? How can I stop feeling awkward in social situations? We've all wondered about these things at some point. Luckily, Vanessa is an expert on human interaction and has the answers you're looking for.

Expect to learn what we should do without hands in social situations, the 4 key things you should do when prepping for a speech, the do’s and don’ts when you’re sitting down, how to detect a liar & how to become a better liar, why so many smart people struggle to be charismatic, how to get better at small talk, how to seem more attractive when dating, how to make the best first impression possible and much more…

00:00:00 Why Hand Gestures Play An Integral Role
00:03:40 What Your Physical Language Is Portraying
00:07:00 Ways To Build Up Positivity For Public Speaking
00:15:33 Tips For Body Language Communication When Sat Down
00:23:54 How To Detect Lying
00:30:27 Why Do Smart People Struggle With Being Charismatic?
00:34:48 How To Improve On Being Competent And Warm
00:39:20 The Perils Of Being Under Prepared Vs Over Prepared
00:42:43 Need-To-Knows About Vocal Charisma
00:51:20 How To Create Engaging Small Talk
00:58:02 How To Become More Resilient With Social Rejection
01:03:09 Dating Advice For Coming Across More Attractive
01:15:20 How To Successfully Pay And Receive Compliments
01:19:08 Where To Find Vanessa

Beautiful vs. Practical Advice - The Morgan Housel Podcast

I heard a phrase recently: “Magazine architect.”

It’s a derisive term architects use for their colleagues who design buildings that look beautiful, grace magazine covers, and win awards, but lack functionality for the tenants. The same is so true for financial professionals. If you are looking for practical advice, beware hiring an artist whose goal is to be praised should be, too.

Fierce Intimacy - The Five Losing Strategies in Partner Relationships - Terry Real

For this episode, I’m doing something a bit different. I’m featuring five chapters from Terry Real's audiobook Fierce Intimacy. What you will hear in this episode will help you identify your and your partner’s losing strategies in relationships and help you move from disharmony to repair. Terry is the creator of Relational Life Therapy, or RLT, which underpins all his books, courses, and teachings and equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to make love work. 

Becoming Bulletproof - The Diary of a CEO with Evy Poumpouras

Evy Poumpouras is a former Special Agent with the U.S. Secret Service. She is the author of the bestselling book, ‘Becoming Bulletproof: Protect Yourself, Read People, Influence Situations, Live Fearlessly’ and co-host of Bravo’s TV competition series ‘Spy Games’.

00:00:00 Intro
00:02:02 What Is Evy Doing for People?
00:03:31 What Do People Come to Evy For?
00:03:54 People Sabotage Themselves
00:05:26 Lie Detecting
00:06:50 How Do We Start to Become Mentally Strong?
00:09:20 The People You Associate With Can Impact You
00:12:23 Observe Your Opponent, Don't Listen to Them
00:16:11 How Does Steven Pick People?
00:22:00 Living Fearlessly
00:24:18 Making Decisions Will Increase Your Confidence
00:28:30 How to Stop Others From Controlling Your Life
00:34:45 Making Decisions
00:36:50 How to Make Progress in Your Life or Career
00:40:00 Reliving Your Pains Makes You Feel High
00:43:13 Sexism in the Secret Service
00:51:54 How to Make Rational Decisions
00:56:57 What to Do When People Are Not Treating You Well
01:01:49 Being Bullied in a Work Environment
01:08:03 What I Learned About Bullies as a Secret Agent
01:12:48 How to Stop Being Prey for a Predator
01:20:33 Can Someone's Life Be Determined by the Way They Speak?
01:22:23 Ads
01:23:22 The Importance of Gesticulating With Your Hands
01:27:57 Can You Fake Your Body Language?
01:36:17 What's Step 1 to Becoming That Person When I'm Not?
01:42:04 Do You Have to Go Through Difficult Times to Learn?
01:47:00 The Hack of Knowing You're Not Special or the Only One
02:00:47 Ads
02:02:51 People Don't Want to Be Victims Anymore
02:07:41 Should We Make People Like Us?
02:09:32 The Importance of Being Authentic
02:11:39 Why Rejection Is the Way to Resilience
02:14:08 The Four Communication Styles
02:25:20 Emotion in the Police Workforce
02:27:29 Switching Styles During Interviews
02:35:02 What Do You Want Your Legacy To Be

How to Enhance Your Immune System - Dr Andrew Huberman with Dr Roger Seheult

My guest is Dr. Roger Seheult, M.D., a board-certified physician in internal medicine, pulmonary diseases, critical care, and sleep medicine at Loma Linda University. We discuss the powerful benefits of light therapy, including infrared light, red light, and sunlight, for improving mitochondrial function in all the body’s organs. We also explore ways to reduce the risk of influenza, colds, and other illnesses that affect the lungs, sinuses, and gut.

Topics include the flu shot, whether handwashing truly prevents illness transmission, and treatments for mold toxicity. We review the efficacy of N-acetylcysteine (NAC), the power of hydrotherapy for combating infections, and strategies for improving sleep and overall health. Additionally, we discuss air quality. This episode provides actionable, science-based tools for preventing and treating infectious illnesses.

00:00:00 Dr. Roger Seheult
00:02:16 Avoiding Sickness, Immune System, Tool: Pillars of Health, NEWSTART
00:08:03 Sponsors: Joovv & Eight Sleep
00:10:46 Sunlight, Mitochondria, Tool: Infrared Light & Melatonin
00:19:09 Melatonin Antioxidant, Reactive Oxygen Species (ROS)/Free Radicals
00:26:38 Infrared Light, Green Spaces, Health & Mortality
00:31:35 Infrared Light, Mitochondrial Dysfunction, Disease
00:38:46 Sunlight & Cancer Risk?, Tools: UV Light, Clothing & Sunlight Exposure
00:41:01 Sponsors: AG1 & LMNT
00:43:32 Sunlight, Incidence of Influenza
00:48:41 Tools: Sunlight Exposure Duration, Winter Months
00:55:18 Infrared Lamps?, Winter Sunlight Exposure; Obesity & Metabolic Dysfunction
00:59:48 Cloudy Days; Sunlight, Primitive Therapy, Hospitals
01:11:33 Sponsor: Function
01:13:21 Artificial Lights, Hospitals & Light Therapy?, ICU Psychosis
01:22:16 Sleep & Darkness, Tools: Eye Mask, Bathroom Navigation; Meals & Light
01:28:27 Influenza, Flu Shots, Swiss Cheese Model; Flu Shot Risks?
01:38:13 Masks?, Flu; Handwashing
01:42:16 Sponsor: Our Place
01:43:57 Water, Sodium; Innate Immune System, Fever & Hydrotherapy
01:53:46 Fever, Heat Hydrotherapy, Interferon & Immune System
01:58:25 Cold Hydrotherapy, Vasoconstriction & White Blood Cells
02:09:56 N-Acetyl Cysteine (NAC), Glutathione, White Clots, Flu
02:19:28 Tool: NAC Dose & Regimen; Mucous, Flu Symptoms
02:25:25 Zinc Supplementation, Copper; Exogenous Interferon
02:28:40 Eucalyptus Oil, Inhalation
02:32:22 Air, Smoking, Vaping, Nicotine Gum
02:36:49 Fresh Air, Forest Bathing, Tool: Go Outdoors
02:40:09 Nature vs Inside Environments, Dark Days/Bright Nights Problem
02:52:38 Mitochondrial Dysfunction, Intermittent Fasting, Sunlight
03:00:43 Smell Loss Recovery
03:05:04 Mold Toxicity, Lungs, Germ vs Terrain Theory, Immunocompromised
03:11:46 Trust, Spirituality, Community, Faith; Forgiveness
03:19:46 Hospital Admission, Tool: Asking Questions
03:25:42 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter

The Secret Habits Of Supercommunicators - Modern Wisdom with Charles Duhigg

Effective communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. While some excel at it naturally, others struggle to express themselves and often get misunderstood. So, what are the best tips to become a master communicator and elevate your communication skills?

Expect to learn what most people get wrong when it comes to understanding communication, the biggest differences between communicators and supercommunicators, how introverts and extroverts communicate differently, the best and worst ways to communicate as a couple, how to be more charismatic, how to get better as making good decisions and much more…

00:00:00 What We Get Wrong About Communication
00:02:31 Differences Between Extroverts & Introverts
00:06:10 The Skill of Asking Questions
00:10:36 How to Listen Better
00:14:33 The Role of Vulnerability in Conversation
00:26:03 Categorising Conversations
00:33:13 People That Make You Feel Interesting
00:37:23 How to Improve Your Small Talk
00:42:07 Asking & Receiving Deep Questions
00:44:00 How NASA Discovered the Importance of Laughter
00:50:36 Best & Worst Ways That Couples Communicate
00:55:56 The Impact of Online Discourse on Communication
01:04:09 Communication as a Source of Identity
01:08:48 Where to Find Charles

What Traits Should You Look For In A Partner? - Modern Wisdom with Dr Shannon Curry

Modern adult relationships are complicated. With endless talk of red flags, green flags, icks etc., it can be tough to know who’s truly worth your time. So how do you build a lasting, healthy relationship when you're ready for one?

Expect to learn what the biggest red flags are to look out for in a partner, the green flags you should look for, the most common reasons why relationships fail, how to see the beauty instead of the challenges in your partner, how you can unlearn the way you argue, how to create longevity in a relationship, the best advice for stopping intrusive thoughts or unwanted worries about your partner, how to move on from heartbreak, and much more…

00:00:00 Trade-Offs in Choosing a Partner
00:06:00 The Importance of Flexibility
00:10:43 Three Key Traits to Look For
00:18:53 Are There Clear Red Flag Traits?
00:21:51 Is it Bad to Be Very Different to Your Partner?
00:34:53 Can We Unlearn How We Argue & Disagree?
00:40:17 Why We’re Drawn to Partners We Want to Fix
00:43:34 The Best Way to Bring an Issue Up to Resolve
00:47:20 Why Friendship Is So Important in Relationships
00:51:54 Things That Predict Relationship Longevity
00:59:06 How to Let Go of Bad Patterns From Previous Relationships
01:05:25 How to Get Over a Breakup
01:17:22 Where to Find Shannon

Minimum Levels of Stress - The Morgan Housel Podcast

Most people, and definitely society as a whole, seem to have a minimum level of stress. They will never be fully at ease because after solving every problem the gaze of their anxiety shifts to the next problem, no matter how trivial it is relative to previous ones.

Non violent communication summary

"Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg is a communication framework that fosters empathy, understanding, and peaceful resolution in conflicts. It can be summarised with the following key concepts:

• Language of Life: NVC emphasizes using language that connects rather than separates. It focuses on expressing needs and feelings honestly while also empathically understanding the needs of others.
• Four Components: NVC communication involves four key components:
  • Observations: Stating facts without judgment or evaluation.
  • Feelings: Identifying and expressing your genuine feelings related to the situation.
  • Needs: Recognizing the underlying needs that give rise to your feelings.
  • Requests: Making clear and specific requests to address your needs.
• Empathy: NVC emphasizes the importance of truly listening to and understanding the other person's perspective, including their observations, feelings, and needs.
• Compassion: NVC promotes a compassionate approach to communication, recognizing that everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have.

9 Harsh Truths About How Relationships Work - Modern Wisdom with Jillian Turecki

Jillian Turecki is a relationship coach, teacher, writer and author. How do you create a thriving and loving relationship that truly lasts? While many may stumble into one by chance, building a deep and meaningful connection often requires more than luck. So what role does the inner work play in not just finding love, but building a relationship that continues to grow and flourish over time? Expect to learn why having a thriving relationship begins with self-work, why the mind is a battlefield in relationships, why lust is not the same as love, the critical reasons it's important to love yourself properly, why you can’t convince someone to love you, why it's important to make peace with your parents and how to do so, and much more…

00:00:00 It Begins With You
00:05:05 The Parallels Between Romance & Business
00:14:06 The Stories We Create in Our Minds
00:20:00 Why Accountability in a Relationship is So Important
00:25:43 How to Stop Your Mind Being a Battlefield
00:28:57 Differentiating Love & Lust
00:40:03 The Importance of Self Love
00:44:13 Speak Up & Tell the Truth in Relationships
00:51:58 What Do Women Really Want From Men?
01:05:48 How Stress & Fear Ruin Relationships
01:14:00 Relationships Aren’t Supposed to Make You Happy
01:18:50 Why You Need to Make Peace With Your Parents
01:30:06 Where to Find Jillian

Living Your Best Year Ever - Darren Hardy

This PDF documents the system Darren Hardy has used for more than 25 years to design, stick to and achieve his own big goals.

A hard-copy can be bought here.

AI summary

Goal Setting and Planning

• The Importance of "Why": Your "Why Power" is more important than willpower. It is the internal drive that will motivate you to achieve your goals.
• Vision: Having a clear vision for your life is essential. Your vision should be bigger than yourself and something you are willing to fight for.
• Written Goals: Clearly written goals with specific plans are necessary for success. Goals should be written down; "the weakest ink is stronger than the strongest mind".
• SMART Goals: Ensure your goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-sensitive.
• Balanced Goals: Goals should be balanced across different areas of life, not just focused on one area: health, relationships, business/work, interests/experiences/hobbies.
• Prioritise Goals: Prioritise your goals into the top three for the year.
• Plan of Action: Create a strategic plan of action, with precise instructions for your mind to unlock your potential. Calculate your timeline. Map your route with milestones. Consider who else is impacted. Identify who you need for assistance. Determine what research is needed.
• Commitment: Make a firm commitment to the process and sign the commitment pledge. Commitment is like pregnancy; you either are or aren't.
• Don't Wait: Start now; the time will never be just right.

Self-Reflection and Review

• Year in Review: Before setting new goals, take an inventory of the past year. Identify 10 best things that happened. Identify successes and where you came up short. Note your greatest accomplishments and lessons learned.
• Plan, Do, Review, Improve: Use the "Plan, Do, Review, and Improve" process to examine your progress. Make a plan or set goals. Execute the plan. Assess how you did in a review. Make adjustments to improve. Review your progress each week/month/quarter/year.

Mindset and Personal Development

• Mindset: Your mindset, self-worth, self-esteem, and character need to be raised in order to achieve your goals.
• Become the Person: Identify the characteristics, behaviours, and disciplines you should adopt to become the person who would achieve your goals.
• Don't Play Small: Don't be afraid of your power or to shine.
• Constant Learning: Commit to constant learning.

Action and Implementation

• Take Action: You must take action; you can't wait for success to arrive.
• Daily Action: Create a rhythm of daily action aligned with your goals.
• Consistency: Stay consistent long after your initial commitment has faded.

8 Hidden Habits To Live Your Healthiest, Happiest and Most Fulfilled Life - Dr Rangan Chatterjee with Robin Sharma

In our conversation, we explore Robin’s concept of the ‘eight forms of wealth’, including physical and mental wellness, rich family relationships, fulfilling work and strong community connections. We discuss why traditional self-help approaches often fall short, particularly in the realm of personal growth and happiness, and how society’s obsession with hustle culture and toxic positivity has exacerbated the problem of burnout and dissatisfaction.

The Dopamine Expert - The Diary of a CEO with Dr Anna Lembke

Dr Anna Lembke is Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. She is the author of bestselling books such as, ‘Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence’

00:00:00 Intro
00:03:44 Why Does Dopamine Matter?
00:04:08 What Is Dopamine?
00:05:35 How Understanding Dopamine Can Improve Your Life
00:06:09 Biggest Misconceptions About Dopamine
00:07:30 Everyday Activities That Impact Dopamine
00:09:36 Dopamine and Its Relationship to Pleasure and Pain
00:18:26 Why Do Our Brains Overshoot?
00:20:31 How Our Brains Are Wired for Addiction
00:25:22 Finding Ways to Deal With Pain
00:31:51 Stories of Addiction
00:34:52 How Many People Have Addiction Disorders?
00:40:14 Hiding Away From Friends and Family
00:41:21 Distinguishing Between Good and Bad Behaviors
00:45:50 How Addiction Makes You Feel
00:47:50 Is Work an Addiction?
00:54:18 What Activities Provide the Biggest Dopamine Hits?
00:58:59 Can We Inject or Drink Dopamine?
01:01:00 Why We Must Do Hard Things
01:02:37 Can You Get an Exercise Comedown?
01:04:19 How to Optimize for a Better Life
01:05:17 How Should We Be Living?
01:09:29 Being Comfortable With the Uncomfortable
01:10:34 Causes of Anxiety Throughout Life
01:12:43 Living in a World Where It's Easy to Outrun Pain
01:13:09 Where Are You Now in Your Grieving Journey?
01:14:43 Youngest Child Seen With Addictions
01:15:37 Youngest Age When Addiction Can Have an Effect
01:16:50 Youngest Patient With Addiction
01:18:40 Has Society Gone Soft?
01:21:05 Victimhood and Responsibility
01:25:02 How to Help Someone Overcome a Victimhood Mentality
01:28:36 Connection Between Responsibility and Self-Esteem
01:30:13 Importance of Our Self-Narrative
01:37:24 Ads
01:38:22 How Helping a Loved One Too Much Can Hurt Them
01:44:49 Overcoming Pornography Addiction
01:48:35 Harms of Watching Porn
01:51:04 Is Dopamine Responsible for Sugar Cravings?
01:53:05 Turning Addictions Around
01:58:25 Why We Bounce Back to Cravings After Relapsing
02:02:49 Effects of Early Exposure to Addictive Substances on Children
02:04:43 Final Thoughts on Overcoming Addiction
02:05:39 Closing Remarks
02:07:38 What Information Changed Your Life?